10 rules, how to make gifts correctly
By tradition, many prepare surprises for the New Year holidays for loved ones and friends. Have you thought that this is one of the languages of love, a way to show how we relate to each other. How to give meaningful and sincere presentations, advises a psychiatrist and philosopher Neil Barton.
Gifts can be given at any time of the year for any reason, the main thing is how we do it. Ten rules apply to me.
1. Never give money
In donated money, the message: “I have no time to think about you and guess desires, so get how much you deserve, and
do with this what you want”.2. The cost of the gift does not matter
Once a friend presented me with a branded recipe for her favorite dish, calligraphically written on a sheet of parchment, and suggested cooking it together. The total cost is near zero. Nevertheless, it was one of the most touching and valuable gifts in life.
3. Roads are not a gift, but attention
It’s great to fulfill desires! A person can mention him in a conversation, or you yourself will notice how he is looking at or looking for something on the Internet for a long time. Give what he dreams about, but does not dare to buy for himself. You can choose something special, funny or original: a bright yellow fountain pen or a joint massage session.
4. People as a whole prefer impressions to objects
Impressions, for example, a trip to a concert, a spa session or an extreme driving lesson is a memorable gift, unlike things. Some things – rare books, exquisite wines – these are also impressions, provided that they are chosen for a particular person.
5. It is better for a person to give what will save his time
A friend gave me an audio version of the book “History of the World in 100 Objects”. He hoped that I could listen to her behind the wheel, between business meetings. So instead of an empty waste of time, my trips became a fascinating and useful occupation.